Why I Hate Blogging

By October 26, 2012 16 Comments

1.  Sometimes I feel like we’re all in different reality shows, rushing from one reality to the other, furiously making comments so other reality shows will come comment on our reality.  When in reality, it’s not reality at all but rather scripted.  Just like reality shows!  Does that make any sense?

2.  Because when you have a blog, you look at other blogs and there is always a better blog.  There is always better content or better pictures or better…

3.  Comparison will always, always make you feel insecure.

4.  Because many successful blogs are based on or caught the world’s attention because of something unfortunate like a child’s death or an illness or addiction or a terrible hardship.  And my life is soooo normal.  Hello???  Shake me, please.  Normal is greatly underrated.

5.  I love comments way too much and when one post gets a lot of comments and another one doesn’t I start freaking out.

6.  I get mad when I freak out.  It’s a blog, not poverty or Rwanda or a presidential election.  No, it’s really not that significant.

7.  I get jealous of other people.  Now, most of the time I’m a pretty content and positive person, but someone else’s success can trick me into feeling discontent…why does she get 130 comments?  It’s a post on her hair!

8.  And then I’m annoyed because I actually watched the 8 minute video on how she did her hair.

9.  Because I’ll never be able to do a post on how to organize your garage.  Or how to decorate your living room.  Or how to write the next great American novel.  I’m just not that person.  And sometimes I want to be.

10.  Because I know someone else’s success does not diminish me.  It actually has nothing to do with me at all.  And yet I allow myself to feel that way.

11.  SEO.  Monetizing.  Keywords.  Tags.  Guest posts.  Social media links.  And on.  And on.  Please help me crawl into a cave.

12.  Time. Time. Time.

13.  Everything I do gets turned around in my brain and into, that would be a great blog post!

14.  Because sometimes I’m chasing something that’s never going to satisfy me.  I’m seeking the praise of the world and if I know anything, I know this:  The praise of the world will never satisfy.  It’s never enough, will never fill the holes of insecurity or the needs a person innately craves.  And if tomorrow my blog got a million hits, I’d ride the high for a few days and then I’d be exactly the same person I was before.  Because nothing changed inside of me.

It reminds me of the movie, Rudy.  Remember when he was feeling knocked down, after he had given everything and it still wasn’t good enough? That he was never ever going to get on that Notre Dame football field?  Fortune glares at him and says,

You’re 5 foot nothin’, 100 and nothin’, and you have barely a speck of athletic ability. And you hung in there with the best college football players in the land for 2 years. And you’re gonna walk outta here with a degree from the University of Notre Dame. In this life, you don’t have to prove nothin’ to nobody but yourself. And after what you’ve gone through, if you haven’t done that by now, it ain’t gonna never happen. Now go on back. 

I guess football is on my mind

That five foot nothin’ just got a touchdown but he’s got a whole lotta athletic ability!

I remember that when I started blogging, this was the only reason: my sweet darlings.  All five of them.  They don’t care a lick about SEO.

I hate blogging.  But sometimes I love it too.  Maybe that will be the next post.  See?  I have problems.



  • Sarah says:

    Agree, agree, and agree! Isn’t it funny how whenever you spill your crazy out for others to see, someone ALWAYS says how they feel the same way? We’re all just still insecure 7th graders standing in front of the cafeteria hoping someone will invite us to sit with them. p.s. I wrote this comment because I loved the post, not so you’d come and comment on my blog 😉

  • Haunani says:

    LOVE this…really love it. I think we all feel that way. I think sometimes about what makes the difference in a blogger with 1000s of followers and 100s of comments and my little puny blog, and I try to do all that stuff that will make me popular in the blogsphere. I obsess over comments and stat counts and um…comments. But then I realize that my biggest fans and most faithful followers live in my house, and that years from now, even if theirs are the only lives affected by my words, it will still have been worth it.
    I love your blog. You can hate it for a little while, but don’t stop doing it! <3

  • Julia Tomiak says:

    When I saw your post title, I wanted to say, “No, no, Amy, don’t hate it.” Then I read your (many, valid) points and thought, “well, yes, I agree with all that.” Especially points #3 and 14. In the middle of your hate, you brought a lot of wisdom. Thanks.

  • Lindsey says:

    I couldn’t agree more. I have such a love/hate relationship with blogging. You’d better stick with it though or your fans will be very sad! 🙂

  • Carrie Rubin says:

    Considering how little time I spend on my hair, I could probably benefit from watching an 8-minute video on hair styling… 😉

  • annewoodman says:

    Ahhhhh! I can definitely relate to this post! Have had those thoughts, have felt those feelings. But I keep on keeping on because I have to just keep being who I am: I’m not a city girl who moved to a cattle ranch and launched a Food Network empire. I’m just me.

    Loved this post! (Even if you only get 10 comments… LOVE.)

  • Anonymous says:

    This is why I don’t do Facebook…that’s all it is, a competition to make yourself better than everyone else and it’s not reality!

  • Jess says:

    I can relate to this post, too!

  • Such a great, sincere post, Amy. I think we all have had feelings like yours at one time or another. Blogging has wonderful aspects to it, while it also has some agonizing aspects.

    I guess the best we can do is stay true to ourselves, admit when we’re out of our league, but ride high the waves when they come. 🙂

  • Ashley says:

    Hi Amy! Thanks for stopping by my blog. All of your points are valid and unfortunately true. I’ve had to step back from blogging more than once because of the discontent that can come from blogging. Recently I decided to stop blogging for other people and instead, blog for myself… comments appreciated but not required. 🙂

  • Ashley says:

    PS- My husband is a graduate of ND and we both LOVE Rudy!! I love how you incorporated Rudy into a blog post. I bet if I did that, my hubby might actually stop by my rantings.

  • We are new to your blog, but have to say, we really enjoyed your posts as well as the beautiful family pictures. We totally agree with you on this one. As a matter of fact,we wrote a post in May, which you can read on our blog, that’s titled: Blog Envy A true Disorder. You should pop over and read it, you’ll get a kick out of it. Looking forward to stopping by more often and reading your posts. Congrats on the new baby by the way. She’s precious!

  • I agree with your list! I have been a bad blogger lately because life has been so busy! I am enjoying catching up on your blog this morning!

  • I agree with your list! I have been a bad blogger lately because life has been so busy! I am enjoying catching up on your blog this morning!

  • I agree with your list! I have been a bad blogger lately because life has been so busy! I am enjoying catching up on your blog this morning!

  • I agree with your list! I have been a bad blogger lately because life has been so busy! I am enjoying catching up on your blog this morning!

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